You know all your weak spots.
You know where to hit.
You are the single worst person to get into a fight with. When you’re the one beating yourself up. In business, there is no time or emotional space for this. Yet beating yourself up can happen all of the time, causing you paralysis and cloudy vision of what you know you need to do.
Sometimes little kids, when getting frustrated with what they are trying to accomplish but encounter roadblocks, will literally punch themselves in the head in a fit of frustration. Just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you didn’t stop doing this. The punches are in your head now, and they need to exit.
Here a few ways to pull yourself off the ropes, and keep yourself from getting walloped into the corner again.
They Are Lying To You
Those voices. Who serve you the deepest cuts. These voices could be hauntings from people in your past, and you are replaying them on a bad Netflix re-binge, that you just need to turn off.
Turn Them Off
How do you turn off these lies? Start recognizing them, and getting into the habit of shutting them out the moment they sneak around. These could sound like:
“You’re ideas aren’t good enough.”
“Nobody wants to read that.”
“Are you delusional?”
“Where did you get that idea? Why do you think it would work?”
“Why would you do that? Why would you bother.”
Punch Them Back
When one of these zingers slides its way into your brain, visualize yourself punching it back. Or kicking. Or both! Here’s a video of ice-kicking for a moment of release.
Know Your Worth - But - Don’t Talk Yourself Out Of It
On a particularly low day or moment, you may see and feel yourself as deflated. Your friend may say to you:
“Know your worth.”
And you might reply to that friend with an honest answer: “But I can’t even buy dish soap.”
No matter if you’re in a low money or high debt scenario, your worth is untouchable and not measured in quarters, stacks of $20s or stocks held.
Root Down In Your Belief
You had a good idea. You had a plan. This plan will most likely work. You just need to do it. Execution of the plan is half the battle. The next half may be managing the plan as it takes flight. One of Tin Shingle’s mottos is: “Turning Ideas Into Action.”
Believe yourself. You had the vision for a reason. Make it happen.
Love On Yourself
Believe the truth you are telling yourself. Sit with that truth as you know it, and proceed. Love on yourself, and feel good about what is coming. Or what may already be here.
Reach Out
Of course book a session with your therapist or find one. But reach out to whichever core friends are good for you in these moments. You need a friend who is going to slap you out of it. Who will throw cold water on your face. Who will take you by the shoulders and shake you if they need to.
But since you are in community with them, you can trust them to only go as far as you can tolerate, to bring you back to your senses.
Tin Shingle can be in your community. Tell us your issues, fears, and problems and we will strategize you to get there. Sometimes you just need to tap back in.
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